Hey everybody!

I have received some lovely messages while I’ve been off tumblr, and I thought I’d better at least come on to say hi and give an update on what’s happening with me :D

Gosh, it’s been MONTHS since I’ve been on here… I do miss it, but I needed a break. Unfortunately, the tumblr gap in my life has been filled with feminist-y facebook pages and… neopets *hangs head in shame*. Just yesterday I unfollowed a whole lot of pages on facebook because the heavy shit really gets me down and there was more of it than posts about my friends. I guess I’m finding it hard to keep a balance between wanting to stay informed and reading feminist and political stuff, and keeping my mental health in check. I still haven’t found that balance. Currently the fb pages I still follow are Everyday Feminism, The Sociological Cinema, A Mighty Girl, The Mary SueCoping With Illness & Disability, Without Faith
Miss Representation… I think that’s it (all really good pages if you’re interested!) 

My life is cool at the moment! I have started a Bachelor of Youth Development and IT ROCKS. It’s at a tech instead of university, and the learning style is just sooo much better for me. Small class, caring tutors, hands-on stuff: we even have to be at a placement, working with youth! I am loving it ^_^ I’m playing house at the moment with my boyfriend coz my family have gone to the UK. I’ve been reeallly sick the past week and missed the first two days of class :( Oh and last term, for my final course grades I got three A+’s and an A!!! To put that in context, I had to give up being a high achiever a long time ago coz of mental illness, and I don’t think I’ve ever gotten an A+ before. I am pretty stoked :D

I really miss heaps of you on here! I’m glad to be facebook friends with some of you, but for others, hope everything is going well!

I know you all want to know if I’m going to be back on tumblr or not but I really don’t know yet. If I do come back I’ll probably cut down the number of people I follow, because I get obsessive about reaching the end of my dashboard to the last post I had seen. Right now I’m thinking about how much I miss being able to rant in a text post on here, because with facebook I have to analyze everything 50 times over and think about who is going to see it and what they will think yada yada. With the election in New Zealand coming up, I’m starting to get way more outspoken politically but this will obviously cause issues…

I am kind of ranting now. Hi there if you are still reading! So to sum up, I miss you all and I miss tumblr, but I don’t know quite yet if I’ll come back. Thank you again for the kind messages I have received!

2 months ago with notes (6)  

how come i get more (shitty anon) asks when i’m not even on tumblr than when i was 0_o

also, hi new followers! i’m on a hiatus at the moment, but hopefully maybe see you soon :)

8 months ago with notes (1)  
# asks # anonymous 

You're the most annoying and worthless type of person in the world. You claim feminism but you represent pessimism.

That’s funny, coz in my opinion the most annoying and worthless type of person in the world is the person who sends anonymous hate-mail to strangers.

8 months ago with notes (6)  
# asks # anonymous # hatemail 

You shouldn't generalise so much


what do people honestly expect from sending these vague, passive aggressive asks? i have no idea what they are referring to, and i really don’t care. 

8 months ago with notes (2)  
# asks # anonymous 

Look at David Bowie or 70's Glam or 80's hair bands - all the guys with teased up hair and tons of make up to make them appear super feminine or androgynous. ( not to mention various fashion and perfume ads over the years) Nobody is going to lose their mind at seeing it, there just apparently isn't enough demand to keep it mainstream for long.

right ok buddy i have no idea what you’re referring to

8 months ago with notes (0)  
# asks # anonymous 

can you lose weight before reviewing any more dresses?


8 months ago with notes (9)  

I’m actually taking an impulsive hiatus from tumblr. It happened by accident, but I think it’ll be good for me to spend a bit of time off it. Sorry especially to the anons and my friends who have sent me messages that I haven’t replied to! Hope everyone is well, and I’ll see you again soonish, I’m not sure when.

9 months ago with notes (9)  





Why I hate going on Facebook.

the thing that upsets me most here is that quite a few of these sample replies show profile photos of children. These people are raising families and kids. And for those fathers with daughters,I wonder how amusing they would find it if they knew there was at least a 1 in 4 chance of their own child being sexually assaulted or raped in her own lifetime.

A real funny joke there, dads.

This is the most terrifying thing I’ve seen today.

I… … Have lost the last of my faith in humanity.

9 months ago with notes (220291)    via (root)

Via: rozlett


Girls are told to be skinny but not too skinny and to wear makeup but not so much that guys can tell and to dress in revealing clothes but not too revealing or else you’re a slut and a hundred other contradictory standards so I think guys can deal with being made fun of for wearing fedoras

9 months ago with notes (341115)    via (root)

Source: gaydicks420 Via: rozlett


straight people couldn’t last a day of Real, Actual Heterophobia. they can’t read a joke made at their expense without kicking up a fuss and resorting to queerphobic behaviours, can you imagine what they’d do if heterophobia began actually affecting their lives outside of a small subsection of a fucking website

9 months ago with notes (10068)    via (root)

Source: wavepunk Via: rozlett
"If you’re struggling, you deserve to make self-care a priority. Whether that means lying in bed all day, eating comfort food, putting off homework, crying, sleeping, rescheduling plans, finding an escape through a good book, watching your favorite tv show, or doing nothing at all — give yourself permission to put your healing first. Quiet the voice telling you to do more and be more, and today, whatever you do, let it be enough. Feel your feelings, breathe, and be gentle with yourself. Acknowledge that you’re doing the best you can to cope and survive. And trust that during this time of struggle, it’s enough."
Daniell Koepke (via moonbrains)
9 months ago with notes (46997)    via (root)


Photoshopping does more than alter our sense of body image in terms of weight. It also portrays false ideals of skin pigment.

9 months ago with notes (33082)    via (root)


This was in my psychology book. I thought it might be useful to those who can’t think if gender-neutral terms.


This was in my psychology book. I thought it might be useful to those who can’t think if gender-neutral terms.

9 months ago with notes (52403)    via (root)

You look way better without all the cosmetics on your face!




Thank you! You have no idea how long I’ve been waiting for some stranger to come around and tell me their opinion on a skill I’ve been perfecting for years! Especially a stranger who has barely any idea what I look like without makeup, seeing is I don’t post my nude face on the internet!

You have no idea how excited I get when someone says "Hey gurl! I know you love cosmetics, you apply them very well after years of study and practice, and it’s a form of self expression, and I know you didn’t ask me, but… all that’s a fucking waste :D"

When you tell someone who chooses to wear cosmetics almost daily that they look “way” better, you’re not being a nice person. You’re telling them that they have bad taste, bad aesthetics, poor perception. It’s like me going into someones bedroom and telling them it looked way better before they decorated it, when they acquired a lot of specific decor, and they’ve been developing the aesthetic I see before me for years.

If you want to tell someone that you think they look nice without makeup, don’t tell them one is better or worse. You have a friend, a girlfriend, a mother, whatever… and you see them without their makeup, just tell them they’re pretty or that their skin is nice.

And don’t tell people they don’t need makeup. You’re assuming you know what their needs are or their personal goals. You can tell them that you’re accepting of them with or without, or just don’t say anything at all. (**I learned this from my boyfriend :3)

Especially not to strangers on the internet

What a cunt. Don’t be such a bitch and take the fucking compliment. They could have not tried to compliment you at all. If you throw a bitch fit when someone says something nice, no one will ever want to again if you’re gonna be a difficult twat.

Wow, so I’m a cunt, a bitch, AND a twat because I’m not suped that some stranger has the audacity to tell me I look good one way or another. Comments on MY appearance are not some fucking commodity that I trip over myself to get to. The shit other people have to say about my choices regarding my aesthetic doesn’t validate my existence.

You’re not gonna sit here and tell me what’s a compliment and what I should be grateful for you dumb ass weak ass bitch

Stay in your lane, clearly commentary and original posts are not your strong points, stick to reblogging gifs of other weak bitches having pillow fights and photos with dumb writing over them because really I’m too fucking kawaii for this shit, really.

I promise you, I am not the one. 

9 months ago with notes (1765)    via (root)

Source: indikos Via: lattendicht


Tough Guise: Violence, Media & The Crisis in Masculinity

with Ed. M, Ph.D Jackson Katz

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