hey what if someone invented a machine that allowed *women to transfer their pregnancies to *men and then the government passed a law that if a woman didn’t want to have a baby the biological father was required to carry it how fast do you think birth control would stop being an issue
I have the right to do to my body as I please. Now mind you, abortion is not a form of birth control. It is NOT okay to have 3, 4, 5 fucking abortions. I’ve never been pregnant before and I’ve never had an abortion so I don’t know what I would do if the situation were in my hands but I’d at least like to know that I have the right to make a decision for my body.
Even if some hypothetical person was going out and deliberately getting pregnant PURELY so they could have abortion after abortion after abortion…you know what? That’s still fucking okay. It doesn’t stop being their body and it certainly doesn’t stop being their choice. Any wanted abortion is a good abortion and it doesn’t fucking matter if you disagree with an individual’s reasoning. As long as it’s not your body, it’s got nothing to do with you.
I mean, seriously. Are you proposing some abortion rationing system? Where people have to queue up and get “abortion tokens”? Where people could trade their tokens on the black market with infertile people who don’t need theirs? Where the state says “you have now been TOO IRRESPONSIBLE, henceforth you shall be forced to complete ALL your pregnancies”? Genuine question: if you think someone is being “irresponsible” for having multiple abortions, what makes you think those people should be parents?
The thing that annoys me most about this “pro-choice-but-only-as-long-as-you-don’t-have-more-than-one-abortion” argument is it is made by people who already understand that abortion isn’t murder, who already understand why it is important to have control over your own body, and all the rest (cf. bolding above). But for some reason that understanding gets thrown out the window when you start making declarations about how having multiple abortions is “NOT OKAY”.
Casual sexism is when my male friends say they wish politicians would stop talking about abortion and birth control and “focus on the real issues.”
Let me tell you something: as someone who faces sexism on a very personal level, I have no interest in politely trying to educate misogynists when we live in a culture in which their misogyny has no repercussions. Our government is introducing bill after bill of offensive, woman-hating legislation, murder is still the leading cause of [death of] pregnant women, and rape is under-prosecuted at staggering numbers. Birth control is up for debate, governors are rolling back equal pay laws, and you think I have the energy to be polite to these people?
Because it doesn’t do any good. There’s no evidence that being super nice to sexists, or racists, or homophobes, or bigots of any kind will make them see the error of their ways - it’ll just make them more comfortable to be around you because you’re playing by their rules.
My blog is one of the only times these people will face any repercussions for being bigots. And you know what? They can turn off the computer and go right back out into the world where they are sexist jackasses and people tolerate it or even encourage it. When I turn off the computer, I’m still in a world of sexist jackasses that are tolerated and even encouraged. There’s this culture of not having any accountability for being a bigot, and I’ve created one tiny space on the internet where that’s no longer true."
“WHY WUD U HAVE CHILDREN IF U CAN’T AFFORD THEM??”
—people who I want to punch until they realize we live in a world where women are routinely denied access to birth control by abusive significant others, a dominant religious influence on society, a male-dominated government often influenced by that religion, and more.
more birth control=less babies overpopulating the world, fewer abortions, fewer children living in poverty, less money going to welfare and other such aid
you’d think the GOP would’ve realized this by now
Nobody tries to take away your right to use a condom. Nobody hammers into your head that you should feel guilty and shameful about preventing your gift-from-God sperm from fertilizing an egg and thus ensuring the birth of a beautiful child. No politician tells you using condoms makes you a slut. Nobody bombs a convenience store that sells condoms, threatens people who put condom vending machines in areas, or attacks politicians who support condom use.
Because so many aspects of our culture normalize rape on a subconscious level.
Because Kansas and Arizona pass bills that allows the beliefs of a doctor or pharmacist to trump the health of a woman. And because fetuses are becoming increasingly more important than the woman carrying them.
Because a state representative can compare a woman giving birth to livestock.
Because legislature that criminalizes pregnancy and abortion are being forced into discussion again and again.
Because the rest of the world wants to know why American women aren’t angrier.
Because of bills that limit the time frame of my choices.
Because for some reason, religion is a legitimate reason to interfere in my uterus.
Because the Protect Life Act even exists.
Because women who miscarry or lose their babies are being charged with murder.
Because a woman who tried to commit suicide while pregnant was jailed and charged with feticide.
Because ectogenesis technology could further remove birthing rights from a mother.
Because programs like this even have to exist.
Because birth control is suddenly a religious issue. Because women can be fired for using birth control as a contraceptive. Because the benefits of no-cost or inexpensive birth control are overlooked. Because ignorance necessitates posts like this.
Because again and again, organizations like the Medicaid Woman’s Health Program are seen as unnecessary. Because even the Susan G. Komen Foundation tried to stop funding Planned Parenthood. And if you think we’re past that, think again.
Because America ranks among a very small number of countries that don’t have paid, mandatory pregnancy leave. In fact, women routinely get forced out of their jobs for being pregnant.
Because public discourse from men like Rush Limbaugh is insulting and misogynistic and goes mostly unpunished.
Because the U.S. Military has some of the highest rape rates and most reprehensible policies for dealing with them.
Because women are bitches for saying no and sluts for saying yes. Because we are valued by how many or few cocks have been in our vaginas.
Because this is normal.
Because I don’t know a single woman who has not been harassed, derided, assaulted. Because I know many women and girls who have been raped. Because I’ve seen the long term, life long repercussions of sexual abuse.
Don’t tell me there isn’t a war on women. And don’t tell me the economy is more important than this. This barely scratches the surface.
Repeat after Soraya Chemaly: I am a woman and I have these human rights. The right to life. The right to privacy. The right to freedom. The right to bodily integrity. The right to decide when and how I reproduce.
*people with uteri
But, seriously, this.
“Men’s indifference to learning about contraception and to taking any responsibility for it is a theme that emerges from many reports of projects that have attempted, and failed, to reach and educate men. One of the most successful programs of contraception education for men, a Planned Parenthood project in Chicago, abandoned its attempts to reach men over the age of twenty-five when it was found that these men simply would not participate, even when offered beer, sandwiches, free condoms—and “stag” movies. Instead, the project targeted a younger group, and as part of its research the project conducted a survey of over a thousand men aged fifteen to nineteen:
• These young men were asked whether they agreed with the statement “It’s okay to tell a girl you love her so that you can have sex with her.” Seven out of ten agreed that it’s okay.
• They were asked whether they agreed with the statement “A guy should use birth control whenever possible.” Eight out of ten disagreed and said a guy should not.
• And when asked, “If I got a girl pregnant, I would want her to have an abortion,” nearly nine out of ten said no, they would not want her to have an abortion. These teenage men agreed: Deception to obtain coital access is okay; male irresponsibility in contraception is okay; but abortion is not okay—“because it’s wrong.”
Largely because of attitudes such as these, one million teenage women—one tenth of all teenage women—become pregnant each year, and two thirds of their pregnancies are not wanted.”
—John Stoltenberg, Refusing to be a Man
my government is making it incredibly difficult to receive birth control yet expects me to not get an abortion when i accidentally become pregnant.
A lot of men will call me a slut if i DO happen to take birth control.
As a woman, i am expected to be a mother and raise children, but will not receive any paid time off from work to take care of them.
If i leave my children at a day care because i need to keep working to feed and take care of them, i am seen as a bad mother.
As a mother, i am less likely to be hired because of the fact that i have children.
The people who control all these factors are men, men who have no idea what it’s like to be a woman.
Man, this sucks.
because it’s 2012 and a bunch of men are sitting around debating women’s right to birth control.
Abortion on demand & without apology! & birth control too!
As the birth control debate rages on I can’t help but become aware that a lot of the rhetoric coming out of the left is about women who use birth control for something other than pregnancy prevention.
At first this didn’t bother me, after all, there are many women out there that use birth control to treat medical conditions rather than avoid pregnancy. Those women should be recognized in this fight.
However, I’ve began to notice that feminists and other birth control activists are jumping to the “it’s not even to prevent pregnancy” defense in response to slut-shaming.
Why? I think using this defense reinforces the notion that there is something wrong with having sex and not intending on getting pregnant.
Slut-shaming is wrong because it’s wrong to demonize women for their sex life. Slut-shaming isn’t wrong because it’s inaccurate. Slut-shaming is wrong because women shouldn’t have to make excuses for having sex.
Women who use birth control to avoid pregnancy are just as legitimate as women who use birth control to treat a medical condition.
I feel like jumping to “some women use birth control for medical conditions” whenever we are presented with a slut-shaming comment from the right is counter-productive to our cause.
How do you feel?
At a protest in favor of reproductive rights today in Richmond VA, protesters assembled on the Virginia Capitol’s steps. Police, many in riot gear, demanded that they disperse or be arrested. 33 people refused to leave the steps, and were arrested.
Top picture: The 33 arrestees, shortly before police moved in.
Bottom picture: Protester, identified as Mara Hyman, faces down cops in riot gear.
Dear Cops: If you need riot gear to keep a peaceful protest of a couple score of people “peaceful” then you’re doing it wrong.
But they’re just sitting there, they’re not even blocking the whole stairs.
Why did they need to be dispersed?
because someone felt threatened by them
bet you good money it was the governor