My parents don’t have tumblr, and most likely never will, but something nice happened the other day. My dad came and said, “Chloe, you’ve told me in the past about stuff on tumblr and deviantArt how people have ‘liked’ your posts and ‘followed’ you and stuff, and I understood that fine, but now I’ve joined this Guild Wars 2 guild, I’ve posted a couple of ‘blog entries’ and I have had seven people ‘like’ them, and on this website every time you get a ‘like’, your reputation goes up. So I just want to tell you that I understand so much more, because it’s funny how much of a lift you can get from some stranger somewhere on the internet, liking what you have to say. I have this new insight into how this stuff works, and just wanted to tell you, coz I know you already know all about it.” Hehe it was awesome :)
I convinced my boyfriend to make a tumblr, but he doesn’t use it and it hasn’t got anything on it xD Every now and then I sit down with him and we go through my funny tumblr together up til the last post he’s seen, and then I like to show him this tumblr and we talk about the stuff I’ve posted together, so that’s really cool :) A lot of the time when I post stuff I think about showing it to George (of course I sometimes I email/post stuff to his facebook wall, but I come across so much awesomeness on tumblr that it’s better just to sit down and look through everything in one go).
Thank you, I hope you had a lovely evening too :) x
I’M NOW WORKING AT SUBWAY!
But I’m all upset now because as soon as I got the call I called my dear loving boyfriend George to tell him the good news. Here’s how our conversation went.
Me: I got the job!
Him: Oh. Where?
Him: Well, you’re part of their corporate slaves now!
And I don’t know, I just burst into tears. Because I was so fucking happy when I heard I’d got it. There were 750 applicants applying for a few jobs at Subway, and I made it to the 100 shortlisted to be interviewed, and actually got one of those fucking jobs. So I told him I was upset by his reaction, and he said, “Well I forgot you haven’t really had a job before, so I guess this is big for you.” Like, THANK YOU for reminding me of that. Thanks. Actually, having a Subway job IS actually really mediocre, and anyone can do it, THANKS I really needed to be reminded of that right then, right when I was so proud and excited. And then he’s all “why is everyone so angry at me right now” and just ARGH
My dad was so happy he practically shouted “FANTASTIC” and made me tell him about it even though he was in the bath. And I called George straight away and he just… he can be so uncaring sometimes. And now I can’t stop crying, and I can’t regain that happy feeling in my stomach from a few minutes ago.
Soppy post warning. Today is my three-year anniversary with George. Three years ago we went and saw the Star Trek movie together and got told off by a middle-aged man for laughing at Spock. We’ve been through good times (like that time I made a bet I could draw something so unbelievably shocking you would be appalled, and you didn’t believe me, but then you saw what I drew and you were practically asphyxiating on the ground) and the bad (like when you were making pasta and I assumed you were making it for both of us but you’d only made it for yourself, or when I made you that cake on V-Day and you ate the whole damn thing when I wasn’t looking…actually, pretty much all our ‘bad times’ are to do with food). I’ll be celebrating by myself today, as you are at OPC and I have a cold. :( I can’t wait to see you. I love you. Happy anniversary. :)
Oh sweet baby Jesus, not this shit.
There’s a high likelihood that someone who knows her saw this bullshit. We also live in an age where this crap will inevitably be recorded and make its way onto the internet somehow. He included her picture, and he chose one that showed her being affectionate to him. If all he wanted was hugs and acceptance from strangers, there is no fucking reason to include her image. By doing so, he is deliberately a creating a situation in which other people can harass her for him. Secondly, the choice of image clearly does not reflect her current feelings towards him, but, by publicizing that one, he is using the classic abusive technique of recounting expressions of love from the past in order to undermine the victim’s current drive to stay way from him. I have been in that situation, and if you want to tell me it’s all about ~universal human feelings~, you can go fuck yourself with a a cactus. Third, all these excuses for this shit enable abusers. Abusers are often very charming people who are good at manipulating sentiment in others. Lots of abusers pull this undying love shit, portraying themselves as devoted everymen who only want people to understand their pain. There is a lot of pressure on women to return to men who do this kind of shit, because omg he clearly loves you so much! The victim feels unable to air any negative feelings about her partner, because she will have them brushed off or used against her.. She will be assured that he has learned his lesson, and be admonished for leaving a man who is so clearly devoted to her. Men understand that they can use popular social narratives to reestablish control over women, and technology is making that easier than ever.
THIS HAPPENS ALL THE TIME. IT IS FUNDAMENTAL TO ENABLING MALE VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN. IT IS A FEMINIST ISSUE.
Reblogging for additional awesome commentary.
Ahahaha is it weird that the first thing I thought was, “Yeah, my boyfriend is like that. He makes me go for runs and I get breathless!”
A post by Alyson — A friend of mine who is interested in getting involved with the feminist movement, asked me this question today. It was interesting, so I decided to write post dedicated to the topic.
The definition: “Feminism is a collection of movements aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women.”
Let’s look at the fantasy-aspect, the feeling and the meanings - held behind spanking…
- Some girls like to spank or be spanked, because they have a fantasy or fetish that involves a master, daddy or dominance.
- Others like the feeling or rush. Just like teenager boys and girls sometimes enjoy giving each other a hickey.
- It’s exciting and erotic.
As for me, I will be honest here and admit that I like spanked by my boyfriend. Let’s get that out there. I love it. Not too rough, not too soft.
Why do I like it and why is it not a problem to me?
I like the feeling. No, I don’t want “owned,” nor do I have a fantasy or fetish for being dominated. I just like the rough pat. To me, it says, “I’m really turned on right now and I want you.”
Fetishes, fantasies and desires are AWESOME.
What people do in the bedroom is THEIR business.
Note that I say THEIR.
- No one should be spanked without first giving their consent.
- No one should spank without being given consent.
- No one should be spanked or spank someone else as a REAL punishment by/to their significant other.
As long as both people think it’s sexy and talk about boundaries before hand, there is no problem with spanking.
Know limits, know WHY you enjoy it and don’t feel guilty for liking it, if you do!
Let me know your thoughts in a reply!
Do you like to be spanked? Do you think it’s okay to enjoy it if you’re a feminist?
“Because poor people need love too.” The back of the Christmas card George gave me ^___^
Silly me, I guessed “grades”
George is a real movie buff, and it seems like it’s his life goal to get to me to watch all these great movies. And I want to!….kinda. I TRYY!!!!!!!!! But I have a short attention span, and, and…. lol i don’t even know. This picture is just so amazingly relevant. BOYS DON’T UNDERSTAND HINTING.
Her face in the fourth frame. :3