I just saw this ad playing before a youtube video and I had to stop and watch the whole thing. Incredible.
Watch this. NowPERFECT PERFECT PERFECT
I find it sad that I text him first.
this is just gender role bullshit. Who txts first has NOTHING TO DO with your gender. It is not sad, it does not make you clingy or desperate, it just means you txted first. Just like with the “guys have to pay for dates” bullshit, this load of crap needs to flushed down the toilet.
I’m so sick of seeing these messages aimed at young teenage girls. They/we have enough shit to deal with without stupid tumblr posts enforcing gender stereotypes.
you ever thought that maybe the reason girls say they’re fine when they’re not, or they’re not mad when they are, is because the second they show any semblance of emotion they’re written off as hysterical bitches that are probably on their period?
My kindergarden teacher commented that I was bossy on my report card and she and my parents worked at convincing me to be less assertive. I was five.
I was told that my assertiveness was offputting and scared the other kids. That I spoke too loudly and was too opinionated.
Speaking in class now is a regularly terrifying and anxiety-inducing experience. I keep on second guessing myself and wondering if I am too loud and too opinionated and too bossy and too assertive.
That rhetoric is so painful, regardless of gender, I think. Obviously there is a gender disparity in that we expect men to be more assertive and “bossy” but god is it a damaging thing.
I was in the Disney store at the mall yesterday and as usual I gaze at all of the merchandise for my favorite character, Mulan. But as usual, I see her featured exclusively in this particular outfit, her “matchmaking” clothes. It actually frustrates me a bit to see her constantly marketed and commodified in this outfit because it’s the outfit that she feels least comfortable with wearing and the one which embodies everything about her journey that she’s trying to leave behind. But of course, because it’s the most “princess-like” and the most feminine, it has to be the outfit that is sold, as if it’s supposed to be her most iconic look. Not only that, but she’s in these clothes for maybe fifteen minutes at most, and only in the beginning. There should be dolls and representations of her in her training uniform, in her soldier’s armor, in short hair, in any of the several other outfits in the movie that better illustrate who Mulan is.
The merchandise intentionally plays down Mulan’s heroic journey in order for her to conform to the “princess” label. Merchandizing her in only this outfit inadvertently erasing all of Mulan’s heroic qualities rather than allow her to stick out amongst the “Disney princesses” to show a more well-rounded group of women.
My Daughter insisted on being “Princess Darth Vader” this year.
A+ parent award.
I took a guy on a date last night and he really seemed like one of the girls, you know? Talked about NORMAL things, not just cars and hammers and whatever else boys like. But then I asked him what his favourite movie was and he named some dick flick about explosions and stuff. Men are so stupid. I’m not a misandrist, but they’re all the same.
Roominate – a new line of dollhouses for girls aims to spark interest in science, technology, and STEM rather than reinforcing the gender stereotypes of traditional toys. The startup comes from three female engineers.
so so so so so cool.
can i have one?
I wish I had one when I was a kid :(
A study by Swim et al had male and female students keep a diary of sexist encounters. They found that women experienced more every day prejudices and instances of discrimination, about one to two instances per week, “consisting of traditional gender role stereotypes and prejudice, demeaning and degrading comments and behaviors, and sexual objectification.” As a result, these incidents “affected women’s psychological well being by decreasing their comfort, increasing their feelings of anger and depression, and decreasing their state self-esteem.”
Men, on the other hand, experienced fewer sexist incidents. The sexist incidents that they did experience, moreover, were more general and less personal (“All men are pigs,” vs. “You were asking for it because of the way you dressed.”).
Negative attitudes against the male gender, therefore, are usually not directed towards individual men, but rather “men” in the sense of resenting a general culture of masculinity. In contrast, sexism against women is tangible and personal, and results in measurable psychological damage to the women who experience it.
^ This is important and why I don’t take instances of interpersonal “sexism” against men that seriously.
Reblogging because I love it when studies back up what we’ve been saying for years: prejudice against men isn’t as bad as it is for women. Period.
Pink used to be for boys. And blue for girls.
Back in the, my colleges football team wore pink jerseys. They eventually stopped when opposing teams wouldn’t stop laughing at them. :/
My store got two books in today. Both survival guides. Both feature strong images on the front. Promising survival techniques for ‘boys only’ and ‘girls only’. Let’s look at the boys, shall we?
How to Survive Anything: Boys Only!
Featuring articles such as “How to Survive a Shark Attack”, “How to Survive if You’re in a Plane Crash”, “How to Survive a Flash Flood”, and many articles along that line. Some are silly, like surviving a t-rex attack, some are more helpful for a real life emergency, like a freak blizzard white out. Everything is action packed, life or death situations. High energy! Boys do dangerous things! Rawr! Go GO GO!
It’s mostly funny, but hey, some things, like surviving a snake bite might come in handy.
Now lets look at the girls, shall we?
How to Survive Anything: Girls Only!
Look at that girl on the cover! She is on the go! She is doing action packed stuff! She is rough and tumble! Let’s look at what she needs to learn to survive.
“How to Survive a BFF Fight”, “How to Take the Perfect School Photo”, “How to Handle Sudden Stardom”, “How to Turn a No into a Yes” (I guess I should be thankful that’s in the girls’ book, it’s just slightly less rapey if it were in the boys’ book). Of course there is such insight as “How to Survive a Crush” and “How to Survive a Fashion Disaster”.
Yes, just about everything in the girls’ book is about looking pretty, getting dates, looking pretty, looking pretty, and looking pretty.
The ONE and only ONE redeeming factor for the girls’ book was “How to Beat Bullies”. The advice there is pretty standard, but at least it is addressed.
The Lesson Here?
Boys are meant to have adventures, girls are meant to shut up and look pretty. The two shall never, ever meet.
Scholastic should hang their heads in some pretty weighty shame right now.
(I wish not to shame children of all genders who like tiaras, of course.)
“The more research we do, the more it seems like the only behavior consistently considered normal is the tendency to be way too strict about what normal behavior actually is — and then being really shitty to the people who don’t conform. So next time you hear someone criticized for not being “manly” or “feminine” enough, remember that, for the most part, the only things keeping it from being 180 degrees different are the numbers on the calendar.”