Dad: “Oh, so you were just calling people a fag to be mean to them.”
Mom: “Oh so you’re not gay?”
Dad: “You’re just an asshole.”
Son: “Yeah-wait… no.”
Mom: “Okay, well have fun being a shithead, honey.”
But if we joke that homophobes are all homos, we let straight people rest easy. Homophobia becomes something that isn’t just targeted at LGBTQ people. It’s something perpetuated by us too. Homophobia stops being straight people’s problem."
white girls who go ”awww” at gay guys but ”eww” at a lesbian
straight guys who fap to lesbians but go “fukin faggits” to gay guys
people who ‘awww’ at gay couples but get annoyed at straight couples
people who take posts about microaggressions against queer people and try to flip it around to make it seem like straight people have it just as bad
this is literally the greatest post on tumblr
Two girls kissing in front of bitches manifesting against same-sex marriage and adoption laws in France.
I think this speaks for itself. Accepting a person doesn’t mean you get to put limits on their freedom. You can’t be an ally and want us to stop talking, or labeling, or demanding to be heard.
Acceptance has no exceptions. Period.
It took me almost a decade of blogging to realize this.
It’s like, my sister used to actually argue with/try to convince her two year old to take a bath. And I would just walk over and stick him in the tub, and he was fine. I didn’t get it; like, why is that even a discussion? Like, maybe some people have time for that shit but c’mon, real folks got bills to pay and shit to do.
And that’s the problem, when you try being nice or trying to convince them of anything, it’s detrimental to everyone because it makes them think their point of view is actually a valid opinion worthy of debate.
Nawwww. That is why I keep my “tone” (lol) consistently punitive and corrective. It’s a wake up slap that hopefully invokes feelings of shame and guilt, which is what a human being is supposed to feel when they’ve done something wrong. And, they don’t like it. They’re not supposed to like it. Why the fuck should they?
Also relevant: maybe that’s why so many racists act like a two year old with a shitty, rashy ass.
It took me almost a decade of blogging to realize this.
Goes for every form of oppression. Your humanity is not a debate. Learn when to recognized when someone is a lost cause. Back up and carry on with your existence. Let them wallow in their ignorance until they fucking drown in it.
So much love for this.
This isn’t about mutual tolerance because there’s nothing mutual about it. If we agree to disagree on this issue, you walk away a full member of this society and I don’t. There is no “live and let live” on this issue because Dan Cathy is spending millions to very specifically NOT let me live. I’m not trying to do that to him.
Asking for “mutual tolerance” on this like running up to a bully beating a kid to death on the playground and scolding them both for not getting along. I’m not trying to dissolve Mr. Cathy’s marriage or make his sex illegal. I’m not trying to make him a second-class citizen, or get him killed. He’s doing that to me, folks; I’m just fighting back.
All your life, you’re told to stand up to bullies, but when WE do it, we’re told WE are the ones being intolerant? Well, okay. Yes. I refuse to tolerate getting my ass kicked. “Guilty as charged.”
But what are you guilty of? When you see a bully beating up a smaller kid and you don’t take a side, then you ARE taking a side. You’re siding with the bully. And when you cheer him on, you’re revealing something about your own character that really is a shame."
^ All of this
Whenever I see people honestly saying how we should ‘respect the opinions’ of bigots like Dan Cathy I don’t know whether to laugh or cry at how stupid some people are
Chick-Fil-A COO Dan Cathy owned up to the company’s contributions to anti-gay causes in a recent interview. In other news, don’t eat at Chick-Fil-A. (via 12345pigeons)
Right. The biblical definition of the family unit. And which one would that be? Adam and Eve, who had no parents? Abraham, who passed his wife off as his sister so she wouldn’t be stolen by kings? Who slept with his wife’s servant to have a son? Who allowed his wife to toss out that servant and her son? Or maybe Jacob, the trickster, who had two wives, two concubines, and children from all of them?
Perhaps he means David, the great king of the Hebrew scriptures. You know, David who had a very special relationship with Jonathan, who had eight wives and more than ten concubines. Or how about his son, Solomon? We can find varying numbers for Solomon’s wives: was it 900? 700? With 300 concubines?
How about the family of Jesus himself, the most famously born bastard of all time? He was conceived out of wedlock, his adoptive father coerced into marrying his pregnant mother, and he tossed family relationships back into their faces during his ministry. (“You should have known I’d be at my father’s house!” “Who is my mother and brothers?”)
Which one of these is the biblical definition of the family unit? Because I certainly don’t see anything that looks like “biblical family” in 21st-century America! (via undercovernun)
^ Mainly for the commentary. “Biblical traditions of marriage” my ass.
THIS. THIS is what Christianity is doing in New Zealand.
Sometimes it’s easy to think that the religious zealots only exist in the US, because all of my religious friends and family are wonderful people whose beliefs do not impose or impact on my life. But this just brings it all back: what many, many Christians are actually saying. I am nearly crying after reading this thread. I am just so disgusted. Here’s what these Christians have to say about gay marriage being legalized in NZ:
"If it’s legal, might as well also allow pedophiles have the right to date kids. Both aren’t natural."
“marriage is all about legally being bonded so you can produce offspring. how are you supposed to do that when you are gay???”
"I always thought marriage was between a male and a female in order to create a family, but you know over 3000 years worth of teaching and every religion and culture could be wrong xD"
"i don’t really agree with gay rights, think its creepy, and think it should stay alegal"
""For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh" Genesis 2:24 I am against a law change."
“perhaps you need to read about what happened in Sodom and Gomorrah. Gay people should not be allowed to get married. However, if they do that is their choice and they will be judged. I am not against gay people personally, however I strongly disagree with the choices they make.”
"Society has made us beleive that its fine, that its n0rmal. It wasnt,it isnt, We have just ‘acepted’ them because we are sheeps of society. God didnt intend it to be that way. Its sad that we are acepting that its normal to have ‘dad amd dad, or other way roundg insted of a mum and dad.if two gay people love ech other that much that they want to be married they should do it in a country where its legal. Of course they are still people with rights and feelings, bt that doesnt mean we should jst agree with the abnormalty ."
“Just because it might become a law does not make it right. With modern pc society, people are afraid of hurting gay peoples feelings. The minority are getting what the majority don’t want. Yes Jesus did say we are to love them and we do but some things just go to far. Jesus did say Marriage is when a man and women come together and become one. A man and a man cannot become one. You know what is right come on stand up for it Marriage is for man and women”
"If it is natural, (food for thought) how come my homosexual friend and his peers who were homosexual and bisexual came to Christ and got rid of their old ways? They shun it. It goes to show it’s just not natural. Pure and simple. I’ll leave it at this, because I’m always misinterpreted by ignorant minds. But in the midst of what is against God, I will oppose it with strong conviction of what is right."
“God created marriage, the question is for kingdom people - What does the bible say about marriage? Is there anywhere where He endorsed gay relationships?”
"The point of marriage is for a man and a Woman to become one before God. To build your relationship not only with each other, but with God. The bible specifically tells us that homosexuality is unnatural. Wile this is true, I am not against homosexual relationships. But marriage is a sacred unity, and should be kept the way it is. Can two men together produce children? No. Can two women together produce children? No. So perhaps they shouldn’t get married. As stated before, marriage is before God. If God sees that homosexual relationships are unnatural, would he really be able to go and bless a homosexual marriage?"
"Children need a MOTHER and FATHER, not two fathers or two mothers. Can a teenage girl talk to her father about her period, or boys without feeling that something is missing? They need a mother to tell them about their bodies and relationships."
"I think we are forced to tolerate gay marriage and if we ever speak up against it we are the ones who are judgmental and critical. We speak of equality but when we are in the minority that disagrees we are labled ‘judgmental, haters, critics etc.’ I speak on behalf of my Lord God Almighty and I refuse to tolerate Gay ‘marriage’ of any kind."
"That shouldnt mean they should be allowed to get married. That means we are just acepting it as ‘normal’ whats gona happen in another 5years, just bcause a man loves 3 woman we shouldnt stand in the way of. ‘love’? Just accept it as normal? Nah. Disagree here. Keep it how God intended. I beleve ‘homosexuality’ can be cured. Stop trying to be ‘different’ . Our world is becoming so corupt by these small things. Bet Jesus will be back soon to put a stop to this silly-ness!"
"By the word of God, Marriage is between a man and woman. To make one flesh. I am not against gay people it’s their choice but when it comes to marriage, under God’s word it’s very clear. I thank God for our current law on this which is by his word and disagree any change. God made Earth not humans we are his children."
"Same dif tho. Marrige is 4 man and woman. If we change it and acept its ok 4 man and man or woman and woman, simply because they are ppl too, and lov ech other…then y say n0 to dad and daughter or man and 3wives. I dnt think christains r judgemental, I thnk they hav an opinion just like evry other human."
"I am only voicing my opinion. I love evryone equally and do not judge."
"People who love someone of the same sex can’t help it and they can’t change it! They are born with a fault in their genes that makes them pretty much a female in a male body."
"I’m not against homosexuality. I’m merely voicing my OWN opinion. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Those of you talking about Human Rights Act. You are taking away OUR rights by not allowing us to voice our own opinions. God hasn’t decided every event that will happen in each person’s life. We all have choices. The choices we make, whether others approve or not mould our futures, our entire being. You can have homosexual desires, and be a Christian. But you don’t act on it. You may have sadistic or homicidal desires and be a Christian. But you don’t act on it. I am not judging others, I am eerily voicing my opinion, and I understand completely if others disagree with my opinion. Because that is your OWN opinion."
"I am not against gay people but like the 20,000+ people that signed the petition to protect marriage in NZ, I am against gay marriage. No offense, but like everybody else we are allowed to voice our own opinions/rights even if there are people that agree to disagree."
"Those are decisions by Man not God. Jesus will return soon and restore all :)"
I do not believe it is possible for someone to oppose same-sex marriage and not be a bigot. The denial of rights is inherently hateful. Saying I am better than you is hateful. Saying you aren’t quite a fully deserving human, but a lower caste member deserving of second-class citizenship is hateful. Saying my religion tells me to do this so I don’t care what your religion says, I’m going to make you follow my religion’s rules is inherently hateful. Saying love is wrong is hateful.
This is a big issue in New Zealand at the moment, and every morning when I read the opinion section of the paper, I nearly barf up my Special K at all the homophobes and religious zealots that I naiively didn’t expect to have in NZ. This is an important reminder. There IS no middle ground.
The first and last one.