Casual heterosexism is playing the board game “The Game of Life” - and everyone had passed the ‘Get Married’ space - and commenting, “Woah, there are two gay couples, a lesbian couple, and one normal couple”.
This one was my submission. The girl was 13 (which doesn’t excuse her, but just adding context). As soon as she said it, I said “Hey” and pulled a “not cool, man” face, and she backtracked. I think that can sometimes be all it takes. Just pointing out, even with just one word, that what someone said is NOT okay. I like to hope that, anyway.
Let’s examine this:
Miss is a word for a woman that has not been married.
Mrs. is an abbreviation of the word Mistress, used as a title for a woman that is married or widowed.
Ms. is a title used for a woman whose marital status is unknown or irrelevant (as in business).
The letters Ms. are not an abbreviation of a word, they are an amalgamation drawn from the letters of Miss and Mrs.
On the other hand, a man is just a mister (Mr.)
You see men don’t have to determine their sexual availability like women."
(It pisses me off endlessly when this is a required box I have to check when filling out things like job applications.)
I had never thought about this before o____0
A thoughtful, sensitive male Wisconsin legislator has proclaimed that he is against divorce under all circumstances — even spousal abuse. And he’s got a message to all those ladies out there getting the shit beaten out of them by their husbands: remember the good times, back before things took an abusive turn, and maybe you’ll fall in love again. There, isn’t that better? Now, chin up, and go back out into that awful marriage of yours like a champ.
The obtuse anti divorce champion is Republican Don Pridemore. And this isn’t the first time the Heartless Cheesehead has acted in a manner most unbecoming.
Remember earlier this month when another Wisconsin lawmaker thoughtfully suggested that maybe single parenthood should be considered a factor that may be indicative of child abuse? Pridemore was a co-sponsor of the bill that would’ve made it a crime for a person to dare try to raise a child on their own outside of the pillowy soft Magic Zone of marriage. But what about women who are being abused by their husbands? Shouldn’t they have the option to extract themselves from an unhealthy situation? Nope, says Pridemore. And he’s got some expert abused spouse marital advice as well: “If they can refind those reasons and get back to why they got married in the first place it might help.”
So, the solution to divorce and spousal abuse is just remembering why you love your abuser? Did he learn about love, relationships, and psychology from tragic early country songs?
I. I can’t.
NO. SHUT UP AND GO AWAY. NO.
GET THE FUCK OUT.
Flagrant stupidity by people responsible making our laws, stupidity of such magnitude that contradicts all psychological and medical research, stupidity of such scope that it threatens the safety and health of half of the citizens of a state, should, in my honest opinion, be a criminal offence.
1. Atheists earn higher incomes. (10-15% higher, according to 1989 study)
2. Atheists stay married longer. (21% of Atheists have been divorced vs 29% for Christians) -Barna Research Group 1999
3. Atheists are less likely to end up in jail. (Atheists comprise 15% of US population, however, only 1% of US Prison population are non-believers.)
4. Atheists are more likely to climb to the top of academia. (97% of the National Academy of Science Members are atheists. The 3,200 members includes more than 200 Noble Laureate recipients)
5. Atheists are less likely to succumb to the lure of authoritarian regimes, that promise miraculous and divine sent decrees. You think Hitler could have convinced a nation of Secularists/Atheists that slaughtering Jews was a good way to spend a Sunday? But far easier to do so when working with devotees of the anti-Semite Martin Luther.
6. Atheists live longer and happier, according to a 2009 poll conducted by Erasmus University Rotterdam
7. Atheists are not required to hate anyone. There is no doctrine that promotes in/out thinking.
8. Atheists have higher morality developmental growth. Famous American psychologist Lawrence Kohlberg writes that at moral development’s highest levels – moral judgments must be justified on rational moral grounds rather than by appeal to the order of nature or to religious authority or revelation. While Freud suggested that religion served to undermine moral responsibility while promoting fanaticism, he contended that people who behave morally only out of fear of a supernatural penalty, would be unlikely to respect and care for others from an altruistic perspective.
9. Atheists achieve deeper levels of critical thinking and free thought.
10. Atheists are way better in the bedroom. (My own anecdotal experience)
*Correlation doesn’t equal causation, but it’s nice to have some fun with it.
Just for the record:
- I’m not married because I don’t want or need the state’s approval of my relationship and I certainly don’t want it interfering if we decide to part.
- I’m not married because the history of marriage is ugly and anti-woman; because I don’t like the common meanings of the words “wife” and “husband”; and because even today, and even among couples that call themselves feminist, gender inequality in relationships is known to increase when a couple moves from cohabitation to marriage (and I don’t think I’m so special that I’ll be the anomaly).
- I’m not married because I’m opposed to the marriage industrial complex. It’s exploitative, stereotypical, and wasteful.
- I’m not married because I value the fact that my partner and I decide to be together every day, even though we don’t have to jump through legal hoops to do otherwise.
- I’m not married because I don’t want to support a discriminatory institution that has and continues to bless some relationships, but not others, out of bigotry.
- I’m not married because I don’t believe in giving social and economic benefits to some kinds of relationships and not others. I don’t believe that a state- or church-endorsed heterosexual union between two and only two people is superior to other kinds of relationships.
All my life I’ve been fed the message that marriage is an essential part of life. Come on, look at Disney movies. Marriage is the happy ending. It’s the goal. Once you get married, everything’s great. I had a bride’s dress in my dress-up box, I “got married” in kindergarten, I used to hold weddings for my teddies. Most chick-flicks have weddings in them, it seems. Young girls plan their dream wedding from childhood.
It has only been since last year that I have really questioned the whole concept of marriage. My boyfriend is quite against it. All of the reasons above we have discussed.
I’d love to have a wedding though. >_<