I will never be able to eat again
"I also look at racism in pornography. Which very few people have actually ever looked at.
Now, what’s interesting, is [that] 1 in 4 films released into the market is called ‘Interracial’ and this is [involving] a black man and a white woman and this is geared to white men.
So the question becomes, ‘Why do white men want to watch black men penetrate white women over-and-over again?’ and I was really thinking about this because it was not that long ago that black men got lynched for even the ‘threat’ of such a thing. So what’s going on?
And then it dawns on me: If indeed pornography is about the debasement of women [then] what better way in a racist society to debase a white woman than have her penetrated over-and-over again by a body that has been marked as ‘demonized,’ as being seen as deviant. I.e.: The black male body.”The Porn Industry perpetuates racist, orientalist fetishes, the hyper-sexualization and dehumanization of Black people and the white/Western-supremacist Male Gaze. PoC and “third-world”/Global South people— particularly women— are just “flavors”, “genres”, menu items, fantasies and fuck-toys for [male] tourists and occupying soldiers, to the porn-warped minds of white/Western males.
"It’s just an element of American culture that still exists, and that is the feeling that a white female will be deflowered or soiled, if you will, by doing a scene with a black male," Lexington Steele (Is the porn industry racist?)
"Though [Misty Stone] said people in the industry rarely, if ever, acknowledge racial disparities in pay and treatment, such disparities are ingrained, as unspoken as they may be. For instance, while it is generally accepted as fact that certain white starlets will see their pay rates go down if they perform with black men, Stone said that she knows it would not go over well if she were to decline scenes with white males."
When I asked male interview subjects what they would like to do in bed, “ejaculation on a woman’s face” was most often at the top of their lists. But when I asked them what the attraction of this act was and whether it meant anything, their initial response was puzzlement. They had never given it much thought. With time for reflection, however, most came up with answers very similar to those of the pornographers I interviewed: it is about controlling women, doing something disgusting to them. It’s like spitting or urinating on them.
Thus something unsettling about gender relationships mediated by pornography is revealed: on-screen male domination is sugar-coated — portrayed as causing women ecstasy — which in turn arouses further desire on the part of the male viewers: the desire to experience the pleasure derived from control and aggression. And deep down, these viewers understand it. “The second you have an orgasm and that passion sinks out of your body, and you’re still watching the movie, you start to really see what’s going on,” one male college student said. “This is not sexy. This is not sex. This is not how I want to experience sex.”"
Chyng Sun, co-director of The Price of Pleasure (via radicalfeministuprising)
Germaine Greer: “Women have no idea how much men hate them.”
Never have and never will allow this to happen to me.
The banana one was hilariously disgusting, but aside from being funny and clever, this is actually a VERY GOOD message that lots of people should see!
The premise of the film project is simple: a woman is asked to read an excerpt from a personally elected body of literature. (x)
It’s called “Hysterical Literature,” and I have never seen a better example of questioning why it is that educated women (whether self or otherwise) always seem to be showcased as having no interest in sex. They all choose interesting books, and they all get off, and it’s fabulous.
It’s also brought forth a lot of comments (on youtube and otherwise) and WHY WOULD SOMEONE DO THIS. IT’S SO DIRTY, and I feel that’s part of the point: Why is this considered so scandalous? It’s just sex. In fact, we don’t even SEE the sex, so the only thing that could be making people uncomfortable while watching it seems to be watching a woman enjoying getting sexual pleasure.
And maybe some of those people just aren’t into voyeurism and that’s cool. But I’m betting a lot of them just don’t like to consider that maybe they think women having sexual pleasure is weird and that they think that you can’t have sexual pleasure as a woman and also have other facets and appreciation for “finer things.”
What I’m saying is, this whole series gives me a lot of thoughts.
Always reblog because Hysterical Literature is the sexiest thing I’ve seen in a long while.
Pretty sure I’ll wanna watch this later soooo
I think some reasons for why the people who probably do watch porn are made so uncomfortable by Hysterical Literature are a little more involved, since there’s definitely a decent market for porn in which women masturbate solo. It’s not JUST that each woman is experiencing sexual pleasure, it’s the combination of a bunch of aspects that are specific to this series:
- each woman is without a partner, so she’s not servicing anyone;
- she’s without a partner, so her attention is focused inward — this is completely about her enjoyment only;
- she’s without a partner, but she does have a vibrator and her own body, so she isn’t dependent on any other human for her orgasm;
- she’s reading a selection of her own aloud with some serious dedication, demonstrating that there are things she finds just as interesting as sex;
- we don’t get any of the visuals or the melodrama or the POV that are usually considered to be the point of porn, so we can’t be titillated by her body (or her partner’s body/actions, or her reactions to her partner’s body/actions) — we don’t get to see what’s causing her pleasure, we only see how it makes her feel.
The whole production is actually super-dismissive of mainstream (straight) porn and its primary audience (dudes), in that it’s not particularly staged for the viewer’s pleasure (there’s no pretense that there isn’t a viewer — it’s just not about them) unless the viewer happens to be a person who gets off on the idea of women having some fantastic selfish orgasms, even when the viewer is in no way invited to imagine themselves participating. :D
- John Stagliano, porn producer: "I was the first to shoot Rocco. Together we evolved toward rougher stuff. He started to spit on girls. A strong male-dominant thing, with women being pushed to their limit. It looks like violence but it's not. I mean, pleasure and pain are the same thing, right?"
- Julie Meadows, ex- porn star: "This industry is full of people that hate - literally HATE women."
- Vince Vouyer, porn producer: "The girls get torn up like usual."
- Khan Tusion, porn producer: "Degradation drives the business. … There are things going on right now that are way over the line."
- Brandon Iron, porn producer: "Where else but in porn can you see a guy who just met a girl that day crack her around, choke her out."
- Docter Sharon Mitchell, Adult Industry Medical (AIM): "Things are getting more and more demeaning towards women. It's degrading. It's very, very violent."
- "I sit there everyday and I sew up anal tears and anal prolapses and the physical conditions of what people are putting their bodies through is getting very, very far away from sexuality as we know it."
Pornography: Impacts on Women, Minorities, and the Public Psyche Survey
Guys please take my survey!! It’s for school I only need nine more responses !!!
- Porn is not a monolithic entity.
- Porn is as problematic as every other fucked of type of media out there aimed primarily at men, because society is fucked up.
- Images of people fucking are not the problem, the problem is that it’s marketed solely to men, with very little material aimed at women and everybody else, and that the content is often misogynistic.
- I repeat it is possible to make non-sexist porn. Non-sexist porn exists.
- The fact that some pornography is problematic is not an argument against all pornography any more than Two and a Half Men is an argument against all television.
I hate Adult Shops geared toward women that boast that they are a Porn Free Environment. This backhandedly shames every woman who IS visual and DOES enjoy porn of all shapes and sizes.
Please, give other options, porn that is well rounded and offers different points of view, different kinds of bodies and caters to many a kink, but DON’T make the assumption that your negative view of porn makes all porn inherently evil.
Don’t alienate the many people out there who enjoy porn and want an alternative to mainstream ideals of porn.
Porn is about male fantasy. The fantasy is that women like everything you do to them, as man.
So how does this translate into real life? Women spend a lot of time and energy trying to please men. We learn early on that we are being looked at – that we are to be looked at. That we are performers. It took years before I actually started enjoying sex. YEARS. I think what I enjoyed most about sex, when I was younger, was the feeling of being desired. The actual sex part was super boring for the first while.
We learn, as girls and women, that the performance is more important than the actual feeling."
Say you’re an average, all-American girl, born in 1987. That makes you 18 in 2005. At age five, you watched skinny women shake their asses around in the “Baby Got Back” video, which played on MTV approximately every 15 minutes during the summer of 1992. You and your little friends copied those moves and your parents thought it was so darn cute that they got out the camcorder.
At age eleven, the Spice Girls were your idols. They showed that you could achieve Girl Power by looking hot, staying skinny, and showing lots of leg. You thought Ginger Spice was the hottest, and pleaded to dye your hair red. When you got to 7th grade, you were sexually harassed by your classmates, something you shared with 83% of the female student population (Harris Interactive Poll, 2001). See, your breasts had developed rather quickly, and boys dared each other to sneak up behind you and grab them. Sometimes they succeeded, but the teachers never saw. Other girls did, and spread rumors about what a slut you were. For a while you had no friends, and you developed a quiet eating disorder. You never had a sex ed. class, because your state’s Department of Education didn’t require it. By 8th grade graduation, you heard that all the popular girls were giving blow jobs after school. Their boyfriends expected this after two weeks of going out.
High school was a little better. Luckily, you never got date-raped, but your best friend did. She didn’t do anything about it, though, because everyone knew she’d had a major crush on the rapist. Meanwhile, IM was the hot new thing, and you were busy chatting away and fending off requests to send sexy photos of yourself to the pervy guys in the chat rooms. You lost your virginity at a party in 10th grade but never spoke to the guy afterwards. You heard later that he’d assessed you as “fat thighs, great tits.” Your guy friends were all bragging about jerking off to porn, and you quickly realized that you had to act like that was no big deal. That’s what all the other girls did.
By 11th grade all the girls were wearing the Playboy bunny chokers and Porn Star shirts and shorts with “Naughty” written across the ass. Guys who dated a lot of girls called themselves “pimps,” and you and your friends went through a phase when you called each other “whore,” as a term of affection. One of the most popular guy’s dads had promised to hire him a stripper for his 18th birthday party, according to the latest rumor. You watched girls get drunk at parties and make out with each other while the guys cheered and took photos. You saw American Pie and The Girl Next Door and countless reality TV shows where women paraded around in hot pants and thong swimsuits and even wedding gowns, competing for fabulous prizes and/or husbands. Senior year, a new Hooters restaurant opened on the highway near your school and became the cool new hangout. Sometimes you ended up there with friends after the game, and your Uncle Jim hosted his 45th birthday party there.
But then you turned 18 and graduated. Your family can’t really afford college for you, and your grades were never that stellar anyway. So you do some neighborhood babysitting, and some lifeguarding at the lake, and try to imagine your next move. This girl you know says she’s going to audition at the Glass Slipper strip club on Route 39 – “always hiring new dancers!” – and invites you to come with. Your summer boyfriend thinks it’s a really hot idea.
You say you need to think about it.
All of your ideas about love and sexuality have been shaped by a lifetime of semi-sleazy, exploitative experiences. But you think of them as normal, just like you think porn is a natural part of everyone’s life. You’ve never been raped, but you’ve grown up in a rape culture. Time and again, it’s been clearly demonstrated that you, and all womankind, are really only useful for one thing. Luckily, this one thing happens to be what men will pay you top dollar for. And right now, you’re unemployed.
If you decide to become a stripper, are you really choosing freely? Or are you simply taking the next logical step in your American-girl socialization process, a track fashioned by the marketers, magazine editors, and movie producers, upon which you were placed as a young child?
Did you ever really have a choice? We think not."
One Angry Girl answers the FAQs — HOW CAN YOU TELL WOMEN NOT TO BE IN PORN? ISN’T IT THEIR CHOICE TO DO WHATEVER THEY WANT WITH THEIR BODIES?
I don’t don’t really know where I stand on this issue yet, but I found this passage really eye-opening to the ways women and girls are shaped to perform sexuality. (via nessfraserloves)
^ Agree. I am not anti-porn, but the porn industry has some serious issues, and this passage is really interesting.
Watching porn is bad in a relationship because you should cherish the person you are with. That’s it. :)
Learn how to fall in love. It may come on handy someday.
With that logic, watching a romantic movie is bad in a relationship because you should cherish the person you are with.
And forget about romance novels.
Actually, stop looking at other people altogether.
Because obviously looking at another couple diminishes the love you have for your own partner.
Yes, I know there are copious problems with the porn industry, but this post comes across as arrogant and imposing.
Learning to have sex from watching porn is about as effective as learning to drive from watching car chase movies. And unfortunately, that’s what our sex education system forces people to do. Rather than helping people learn how to make authentic sexual choices, communicate with a partner, set boundaries or identify their needs, desires, and goals, we withhold information and then shame them for making mistakes. Is it any wonder that people are trying to learn how to have sex from porn?
Porn isn’t any more of a fantasy than a romantic comedy or an action movie is. But until we give people more accurate ideas about sex, there’s no way to balance it out. And to critique porn for doing something that every other genre of entertainment does seems a bit silly to me. After all, there’s no reason to have higher expectations for porn than we do for action movies.
Porn can be great, but fuck, if it is the entirety of your sexual knowledge, there are some serious implications. I read a story in “Living Dolls” by Natasha Walter where this guy was raised in an all-boys school, didn’t have any sisters, and watched porn from a young age. He knew nothing about women except from porn. So one day he went to a party and asked a girl if he could touch her boob, and was surprised when she was shocked by the question.
Also, the fact that boys are expected to watch porn and girls aren’t leads to some complicated situations in the bedroom with heterosexual couples. The guy is ready for the hardcore stuff, but the girl has really only read a page of “kissy-sexy-time-now-fade-to-black…” in some romance novel (I am aware I am using extreme examples). How is the girl supposed to react to the suggestion of fisting when she doesn’t even know where her own clitoris is??
~my rant for the day~
For this generation, coming of age in the digital age means pioneering in a world where pornography has become mobile and mainstream, privates are public, and extreme is the norm.. Sexy Baby. a documentary.
This actually brought on a few tears for me, as a mother.
How can a person not be disgusted by this culture? I understand sexuality. Its importance is far deeper than this culture allows it to be. But what this culture does is place a mono-view of sexuality, sex, and femininity as the central and defining doctrine, normalizes it and simultaneously disenfranchises all outlying variation. The result is a culture of self-loathing.
Wow. This was a punch in the face of RELEVANCE. Those 12-year-olds, “Woah, ew, she definitely needed labia surgery!” My little sister is twelve.
Sometimes this culture, this society… it just makes me want to break down in tears.
I want to see this documentary. (Actually I really don’t, but you know what I mean.)
Ugh, I’ve seen that book.
Jennifer Case, an ex porn actress. (via jamesfromta)
Interesting and valuable perspective!