I wish some of these slut shaming slimebags would explain to me how a person’s vagina can become “loose” through penetrative intercourse with “many” men yet if they limit themselves to one man (but still having the same amount of sex) their vaginas are somehow naturally protected from physical alteration?
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i’m sorry but this just needs to be on my blog kthx
Firstly, let me say if you’re offended by any of the language I’m about to use, fuck you.
I’ve been getting a lot of hate mail from mostly anonymous fools, and all of their arguments/complaints/verbal diarrhea can be safely slotted into four categories, which get increasingly moronic:
1. “Virginity does exist! It’s what is lost when you have sex!”
Well, no. Nothing is lost. And define “sex.” Does oral sex count? It’s got “sex” right in the title, for fuck’s sake! Well, how about a handjob? If that counts, what about masturbation? What difference does it make whosehand is on my cock? The result is exactly the same…
2. “Virginity does exist! It’s what is lost when the hymen is broken!”
Well, no. Nothing is lost. And a hymen can be busted any number of ways. A finger can accomplish that. Riding horses and/or bikes can accomplish that. So either mutual masturbation can be considered losing your virginity, or the mere act of riding a horse can sometimes be categorized as bestiality.
3. “Virginity does exist! It’s what is lost when a pee-pee goes in a vajayjay!”
Well, no. Unless you’re suggesting gay men and lesbians are and will remain virgins for the remainder of their lives. In which case there’s no such thing as “gay sex,” so to all those ‘liberal’ Catholics who say it’s fine to be gay as long as you don’t have sex… well, it’s not actually possible, by this definition, to have ‘sex’. Oh, and nothing is lost.
4. “Virginity does exist! It’s what is lost during ‘penetration’!”
Well, no. Define “penetration.” Because sometimes penises penetrate mouths or asses. And sometimes tongues penetrate vaginas or asses. And sometimes everything you say is fucking stupid. And, again, nothing is lost.
if you have to talk someone into agreeing to have sex with you
if you coerce someone into agreeing to have sex with you
if you wear someone down into agreeing to have sex with you
that is not fucking consent.
I had this male friend who was with me in the hospital when I started labor.
He said the noises he could hear while walking down the hall were really turning him on.
Pissed me off.
Ten years and I am still pissed.
THIS FUCKING POST! I am reminded of a time when I had a total breakdown at school and started making low, scream-like noises from mental anguish in the counselor’s office, and later I heard that a guy had remarked on how sexual it had sounded. I don’t think I need to comment further on how fucked up that is.
Holy shit just reading through this post again, just, ARGH so relevant! I can’t have my legs open when I sit, and this misogyny is even instilled into my partner, coz when I do/say something ‘unladylike’ he says something about how unattractive it is, and how it deters him from thinking of me as sexually appealing (not those exact words obviously). Not his fault, and I am guilty of the same mindset, but it just shows how drilled in this idea is. “A woman is seen and now heard” etc etc. FUCKED UP.
“Men’s indifference to learning about contraception and to taking any responsibility for it is a theme that emerges from many reports of projects that have attempted, and failed, to reach and educate men. One of the most successful programs of contraception education for men, a Planned Parenthood project in Chicago, abandoned its attempts to reach men over the age of twenty-five when it was found that these men simply would not participate, even when offered beer, sandwiches, free condoms—and “stag” movies. Instead, the project targeted a younger group, and as part of its research the project conducted a survey of over a thousand men aged fifteen to nineteen:
• These young men were asked whether they agreed with the statement “It’s okay to tell a girl you love her so that you can have sex with her.” Seven out of ten agreed that it’s okay.
• They were asked whether they agreed with the statement “A guy should use birth control whenever possible.” Eight out of ten disagreed and said a guy should not.
• And when asked, “If I got a girl pregnant, I would want her to have an abortion,” nearly nine out of ten said no, they would not want her to have an abortion. These teenage men agreed: Deception to obtain coital access is okay; male irresponsibility in contraception is okay; but abortion is not okay—“because it’s wrong.”
Largely because of attitudes such as these, one million teenage women—one tenth of all teenage women—become pregnant each year, and two thirds of their pregnancies are not wanted.”
—John Stoltenberg, Refusing to be a Man
5 Countries That Do It Better: How Sexual Prudery Makes America a Less Healthy and Happy Place
Sexual attitudes in Europe are the stuff of the Christian Right’s nightmares — yet many of those societies are better for having more open attitudes toward sexuality.
To extreme social conservatives of the far right, the word prude is not an insult — it’s a badge of honor. Prudes, they would argue, should be upheld as exemplary role models because a sexually repressive society is also a society with fewer unplanned pregnancies and fewer sexually transmitted diseases. But not only do the facts not bear that out, they also demonstrate that the exact opposite is true. Countries that embrace many of the things social conservatives detest (comprehensive sex education, pro-gay legislation, nude or topless beaches, legal or decriminalized prostitution, adult entertainment) tend to be countries that have less sexual dysfunction than the United States, not more. And when one compares sexual attitudes in the United States to sexual attitudes in Western Europe, it becomes evident that there is a strong correlation between social conservatism and higher rates of teen pregnancy, abortion and sexually transmitted diseases.