Fugivitus: A few things to consider when you find a feminist blog (via absolutely-spiffing)

In my experience, the men who are most likely to come into feminist groups to criticise them are self proclaimed ‘intellectuals’ who turn up to demonstrate to people just how oh-so-clever they are, to masturbate over their ‘logical’ arguments, to incite ‘new and stimulating’ debate about subjects that have been done to death, to willfully ignore how they are erasing experiences and silencing people, just so that they can have a few moments of ‘thrilling’ discussion in their otherwise dull, highly privileged lives. And when this brief adrenalin rush is over? They can go home, safe in the knowledge that they have shown all these silly hysterical women exactly what’s what, safe in their privilege which means that they do not have to give this encounter more than a passing thought. Believing that they have made a difference. And this makes me sick.

So, this is actually a pretty good example to use. Perhaps these men will read it and we can get it through their pseudo-intellectual heads that this is not ok. This is harmful behaviour and contributes absolutely nothing of worth to anything at all. Feminism has enough flaws as it is. Feminism is, by and large, racist, transphobic, ableist, homophobic, and classist. We do not have time to pander to these individuals too. If men really want to help? Commit to being a good ally and give us the opportunity to solve these problems without this almost constant hindrance.

Omg this is perfect.

(via angrybanette)

So much about this, so true.   People think they’re throwing you some curve ball when it’s really like they’re still in the early pre-cambrian bacterial stages of earth’s global evolution yet they’re convinced they’re multicellular organisms.   And you’re like “no dude, it’s really clear that you’re not.”

Anyhow, just to add my own to the first example, it’s so complicated indeed and it’s come up twice for me in the past week.   I went on a date last night and I was so, so relieved that they did not hassle me at all about buying my own drink.   It was in contrast to two nights before, when I was trying to pay for my drink and another guy at the table really wanted to pay for it to me.   So many things go through your head- my friends are always all like, “You might as well accept it if they’re offering,” and if I don’t accept the offer in most cases the guys are not like “cool, you must be upholding your internal, personal feminist values,” they’re often offended and feeling like I made a big deal out of nothing and feel it is a slight (and these guys aren’t assholes, to be clear, they’re just accustomed to what this action normally signals).   And I myself feel like I’m being unnecessarily argumentative over what is basically just a generous offer, yet I feel really conflicted about accepting a drink from someone if I’m not actually interested in them (but they are in me), and just about the whole… situation.   Anyhow.   Yeah, it’s complicated, and there is often no win/win solution.

(via feministdisney)

Perfect. Too often, people don’t analyze exactly the message that they’re sending beyond the simplistic question they’ve asked—the message that lies below the sentence they spit out, the one that asserts their superiority and expectation to be given priority and more consideration than anybody else. 

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- Lucy, When Worlds Collide: Fandom and Male Privilege. (via seaofbadstories)

I might have reblogged this already but it’s so good I don’t care.

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